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My labia ruins my sex life
  • Vote Up0Vote Down ShyGirlShyGirl
    0.03 Karma Points [?]Message ShyGirlPosts: 1Member
    Hey guys, I joined this site because I was amazed anyone was enthusiastic about bigger labia. All of my life since puberty I’ve felt having larger labia has significantly affected my sexuality and enjoyment.

    I’m in my late twenties and I have only slept with two guys because of my insecurity about my labia. The first one just looked totally astounded and horrified, and we slept together only once. My next partner was a long-term one, and he was nice to me but still kind of said some things that made me insecure, he was an older guy and had slept with many women in his life; but he still said he had never really seen any vulvas quite like mine. I never let him go down on me and we usually had sex in the dark. It’s really awful to be with someone that sees you as a freak rather than being turned on by how your pussy looks. Even if they don’t say it, you can tell what they are thinking by how they act.

    I’ve only received oral sex once, and only for a few minutes because the guy was turned off by how big my labia were. So yeah, sorry if this is the wrong place to write all this, it’s just so depressing. I’m a hyper sexual person too; I masturbate several times a day but I feel like I’ll never have a fulfilling sex life because of the appearance of my labia. I wish there was some kind of dating site for this, so I could meet someone who was totally turned on by bigger labia.

    How do I have a good sex life and have fun with labia like mine? They are asymmetrical, but they are quite thick and even from behind you can see them very clearly. My clit is big too, as is the hood...and the lips get really wet when I’m turned on, and I wonder if this is something else turning off guys...like being too wet or something. I just wish I had one of those perfect tucked in porn pussies. I would love to be truly desired.
    Post edited by LabiaLover at 2019-01-02 13:27:19
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  • Vote Up0Vote Down ILP69ILP69
    2.11 Karma Points [?]Message ILP69Posts: 6Member
    Dear ShyGirl:

    I’m somewhat perplexed about your situation. Perhaps it is because I find your very thick labia and big clit to be extremely attractive and sexy ... or more simply put, absolutely beatiful. I have dreamed for so many years about a woman with your lovely attributes. The mear thought of spending long periods of time orally attending to your beautiful body makes me firm in anticipation.

    However, I am not terribly surprised that some men have thought your womanhood to be undesirable or even freaky. And, that is because too many men have an unrealistic fantasy about the perfect looking woman (whatever that means) that is portrayed to them by the fashion industry and the porn industry plays on that fantasy to the tune of big profits.

    And, just where are these ‘perfectly shaped women, personally I have never seen one. EVERY woman has something uniquely beautiful about her:
    - breast that aren’t perfectly symmetrical;
    - a gap between her upper front two teeth;
    - a beautifully large ass
    - thick kissable lips
    - a very muscular body
    - very large amount of king pubic hair from her naval down and all around to the top of the crack between her butt cheeks ... long and thick enough to run my fingers through and to spend time gently brushing with a soft bressel brush
    - slightly hairy legs
    - hairy underarms
    - a long enlarged clit
    - large labia
    - long thick nipples

    Your unique charms make you unbelievably desirable. Your beauty is rare, and any man who might be the object of your affection is an ignorant fool if he is not appreciative of your affections and ALL that is so very desirable about you.

    Your thick labia, that can be seen from behind, and your large clit and hood. ate part of your inner beauty that can only be seen when you choose to allow a man the privilege of orally and visually feasting on them.

    Personally, intelligence is also a necessary attribute for a woman to be beautiful in my eyes. But like your gorgeous vagina, there are men who are turned off by strong smart women. Trust me darling, these are weak men of little substance, with whom you should not waste your time, kick them to the curb and move on. For you are better and you deserve better.

    I simply do not comprehend how a man wouldn’t feel privileged and grateful to spend lots of time looking at and orally making love to your wonderful womanhood.

    Desiring and admiring your sensual beauty,
    Max
    Thanked by 1LusciousLabia
  • Vote Up0Vote Down xxl4skinxxl4skin
    133.18 Karma Points [?]Message xxl4skinPosts: 1,017Senior Member
    ShyGirl you not a Freak, its normal. Every are different... I love big Labias...
    long stretching is sexy
  • Vote Up0Vote Down licknthick1licknthick1
    720.11 Karma Points [?]Message licknthick1Posts: 1,683Senior Member
    @ShyGirl: You came to the right place go get affirmation for your labia! We here LOVE large labia, are extremely turned on by them, and you will find that there are many men who will be very supportive of you!!! You sound very exciting- I would love to give you plenty of oral sex, giving you all the stimulation you want and need, with gusto! Please don't be depressed. If you would post pictures of your labia on here, you will see by the reaction of members that you are indeed appreciated and desired!
  • Vote Up0Vote Down LabiaLoverLabiaLover
    369.58 Karma Points [?]Message LabiaLoverPosts: 1,872Site Administrator
    @ShyGirl:

    I'm sorry to hear of your troubles.

    I'd like to offer my opinion/advice/perspective based on what you've explained here:

    I’m in my late twenties and I have only slept with two guys because of my insecurity about my labia. The first one just looked totally astounded and horrified, and we slept together only once.

    ** Is it possible this partner was inexperienced perhaps? Typically men who are inexperienced respond in an atypical fashion as they simply have never witnessed many women in the first place, let alone women with more pronounced/larger labia.  My other possible conclusion is that perhaps you "projected" your insecurity on to him. I was once with a woman who looked horrified at my uncircumcised cock, but later told me when we discussed in detail that she was actually just surprised as she hadn't seen one before, not actually horrified.  I was actually projecting my own insecurity onto her.  She enjoyed my cock and actually made it a point to do things that she could only do with a man like me who is uncircumcised (suck and nibble on my foreskin for example).  I offer this opinion as I know I've done the same myself (project my insecurity onto another person who wasn't seeing me the way I saw myself).  Do you think this possibly happened in your case?

    My next partner was a long-term one, and he was nice to me but still kind of said some things that made me insecure, he was an older guy and had slept with many women in his life; but he still said he had never really seen any vulvas quite like mine.

    ** This is unfortunate.  Especially from an older, more experienced man.  Sometimes people don't realize the impact of the things they say to someone else, even in an off-the-cuff kinda way or when they think they're being funny/joking. :-$

    I never let him go down on me and we usually had sex in the dark. It’s really awful to be with someone that sees you as a freak rather than being turned on by how your pussy looks. Even if they don’t say it, you can tell what they are thinking by how they act.

    ** Another unfortunate set of circumstances.  I understand this must feel horrible for you.  I was just discussing sexual scenarios with a female friend of mine recently, and we touched on this topic, as well as date-rape, and my explanation was the same for both, and she loved my response and told me that I'm unlike most men she's met in her life.

    As we discussed the date-rape thing, she asked me what do I think men get out of being sexually involved with a woman who is "out of it" or "doesn't have her wits" due to a date-rape drug being used on her and I said: "I think it's ridiculous personally.  When I'm sexual with a woman, I want her to BE THERE with me, and experience and feel everything I'm doing with her, to her, and for her.  If she wasn't in her right mind, heavily inebriated or otherwise, I wouldn't even feel the same doing anything with her.  Part of the turn on sexually for me is being with a woman who appreciates and loves what I'm doing to her, with her, and for her.  The words: 'don't stop', or 'that feels amazing' are things I'm accustomed to hearing.  That just doesn't seem like it would happen with a woman who is under the influence of some date-rape drug, or heavily inebriated."

    Likewise, I prefer to be sexually involved with a woman in a dimly lit room or with the lights on completely, although a dimly lit room is preferable to help set the mood and such.  I want you to look down at me while I suck on your labia, lick your pussy and enjoy what I'm doing to you.  Again, as with the example above, it just doesn't seem the same to me if you're overly concerned about what I think of your body/labia.  Most importantly, you certainly won't really enjoy it if you're hung up on what I'm thinking rather than how I'm making you feel.  I've yet to meet a woman who's body I didn't love, and I've seen probably more female bodies/pussy than most men my age.  There is something about the connection that is experienced when I'm looking into your eyes as I'm licking your pussy and watching you get overwhelmed until the point of orgasm.  Even moreso as the intercourse happens.  I love to watch my cock slide in and out of woman's pussy and then look into her eyes as we both experience the amazing feelings produced as a result of our bodies working together in unison to create the experience we both desire (how we ended up being sexual in the first place, right?).

    I'm sad your experiences have not been better.

    I can only offer you the (hopefully soothing) words, that it will get better when you are with a guy who truly appreciates your body and wants to show you how much he appreciates you deciding to share your body with him.  It is like being in love in that moment.  At least for me anyway.  I'm very sexual and so I do my absolute best to demonstrate to every woman I'm ever sexually involved with that I absolutely LOVE her body, and that I absolutely LOVE her for deciding (it is HER choice after all, not a requirement) to share her body with me.  Everything I do from that point is to please her.  Every orgasm intended.  Every touch.  Every kiss.  Every lick.  Every. Single. Thing. I. Do.  Is to appreciate her and her willingness to share her body with me.  It is my way of being thankful to her. :X

    I’ve only received oral sex once, and only for a few minutes because the guy was turned off by how big my labia were. So yeah, sorry if this is the wrong place to write all this, it’s just so depressing. I’m a hyper sexual person too; I masturbate several times a day but I feel like I’ll never have a fulfilling sex life because of the appearance of my labia. I wish there was some kind of dating site for this, so I could meet someone who was totally turned on by bigger labia.

    ** I'm sad to hear this.  By late twenties, you should have had lots of oral performed on you by this point, and should be in a position of choosing sexual partners based on their affinity to please you or not, rather than loathing the idea of what a guy might think about your labia.

    You definitely are in the right place to share your experiences, as that is exactly the reason I created the site in the first place, to let women like you know and help you realize that your experiences up to this point don't represent what you should expect from life/guys going forward.  While this isn't exactly a dating site, this might be a good place to start, perhaps talking to any of the single, male members who are here and would be happy to show you what an amazing sexual experience can be like.  Feel free to chat around and see what strikes your fancy.  You might be surprised by what you find, and at least in the end you'll know that the guys you talk to her already know what to expect and will be looking forward to pleasing you. ;-)

    How do I have a good sex life and have fun with labia like mine? They are asymmetrical, but they are quite thick and even from behind you can see them very clearly. My clit is big too, as is the hood...and the lips get really wet when I’m turned on, and I wonder if this is something else turning off guys...like being too wet or something. I just wish I had one of those perfect tucked in porn pussies. I would love to be truly desired.

    ** Well, I think eventually once you've experienced a particularly good sexual partner, your sex life will become fun and you'll understand what it is to be with a guy who appreciates your body and everything about you.  Frankly, the way you describe your labia, and clit has me thinking the absolute wildest things, as I'm sure the other guys here would agree.

    Could I encourage you to share a pic or two of your labia so that we may all see what it is you're describing?

    A picture is worth more than 1,000 words. :-)

    Also, I've heard other women have the concern about being too wet, even in the middle of intercourse, women have asked me if they were too wet, and my response is usually: "Asking me if you're too wet, is like asking me if I have too much money -- clearly such a thing isn't possible!"

    Personally for me, the more wet a woman's pussy is when I'm pleasuring her, the better it is, especially since I know that I'm the one that caused all the wetness!  If you're completely dry, that would be a problem that I would feel the need to remedy, but being too wet?  Not at all.  Yes, let me lick it all up so you can make more wetness for me to lick or watch it coat my cock so that I can add my own special wetness to yours, please.  I love seeing how much I turn you on!  I'm sure things will get better for you.  Don't worry.  Just be patient, talk to some of the men/women here, and your confidence will improve and get better as will your sexual experiences with partners in the future as you teach them how to please you and become more selective about choosing partners based on their ability to make your sexual experience amazing or not.

    Be discerning -- you deserve good sexual experiences.

    Let us know how you get on and if you don't mind, share a pic or two of your labia. 8->
    Labia Lover - Pussy Connoisseur and Labia Enthusiast
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  • Vote Up0Vote Down dooslek69dooslek69
    22.87 Karma Points [?]Message dooslek69Posts: 68Member
    I believe the bigger the lips (labia) the more to suck on and I can assure you a lot of guys do too. So don't be ashamed but rather proud
  • Vote Up0Vote Down MooseMoose
    0.23 Karma Points [?]Message MoosePosts: 2Member
    Hmmm your dating the wrong guys 

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